January 29, 2003
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so, taking into account copying and saving (which I definitely shall do) I shall attempt to repost what I said before...about men and women
okay (bear with me, it's not going to be as pretty as it was I don't think)
men and women, there is a division a divide a duality that is ... it's not enough. at least not for humans, as we complicate this matter much like everything else...i more see it as a flow chart
my mental flow chart looks like this:
"asshole" guys -----lusted after by----> "ideal" girls -----lusted after by----> "nice" guys ----lusted after by---> "nice" girls
so asshole screws over ideal girl, she runs to her "nice" guy friends, makes them feel special and needed...then asshole decides he wants ideal back or else she finds a new asshole thus abandoning "nice" guy who seeks solace with "nice" girl until the next time that the asshole screws over "ideal" and then the circle starts all over...
and yet...the circle isn't enough...(I can't diagram it here really) because someone's asshole is someone else's nice guy and someone's nice girl is someone else's ideal girl...so it's massively complicated by social structure, especially by looks (I don't care what America pretends, looks do matter, what looks varies from person to person but nearly everyone judges something on looks) and by intelligence, by social position, by money...
so you put it all together and in my head it makes a big messy chart with all these extenuating circumstances that seem to come out to one overall conclusion:
In general, humans want what they can't have.
easy enough conclusion I guess...perverse too, because once you get what you want, then suddenly, you realize you don't want it anymore...it's not enough you're not happy or satisfied...
it's frustrating enough to see your friends do it, to see it done to your friends but when you do it and realize you do it...argh...makes me want to go back in time and kick whoever decided to start this horribly messy civilization mess we have....
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It is too bad you aren't in a psych program. I know there is several interesting research projects in that blog.
It all seems so true to me...
a couple of things...1) people do change though, you gotta remember that. in my case, asshole guy turned into ideal guy. and 2) this theory doesn't account for happy committed couples.
i so much want to draw that theory on a white board though. =O)
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